Grace is Gone (2007)

Three words to describe this movie- Short but impactful. This movie may not have computer-generated imagery, nor not many casts as well (Yes, I did count the number of cast for this movie when the credits rolled up, about only 14-15 only), but the story was depicted perfectly on how a father, Stanley Philips played by John Cusack, struggles to find courage to tell his two daughters Heidi and Dawn about their mother’s death during her serving the country she loved. Throughout the movie, the essence of him bringing his kids to Enchanted Gardens was to find meaning in this life, and coupled with his ways of grieving the loss his loved one.

Unexpected deaths are never easy. I can say this because I have been there. Throughout my life, I have never lost anyone dear to me, until the year 2013, when my grandmother was sent back to the heavens. It was so abrupt, so sudden that I did not get a chance to say my last goodbye, and it hurts until to this very moment. Stanley also has this sudden blow to the face when two soldiers came with the message that all families that have members serving their country dread about. Once he got this news, he began his first stage of grief, which is Denial. Denial happens when we block out the situation, and hide the facts. This can be seen when Stanley was reluctant to tell the two daughters about the mother’s death. Additionally, it was also depicted when he calls the house to update his wife on their whereabouts, however, as we watched the movie more, we soon found out that, he wanted to hear her voice, still, he was in denial. He couldn’t fathom that he will never see his wife, ever again.

After deciding that he will not tell his daughters yet about the death, he spontaneously went on a road trip to the Enchanted Gardens, where they all went once together as a family. En route to Enchanted Gardens, apart from the grieving process of Stanley, we could see how he tries to find meaning of his existence. Few examples was when he did the spontaneous trip, sure it was out of denial, but it could be the fact that, he wanted to make sense of his life after her death. Next would be an interesting scene, when he let loose of himself, the scene when he did ‘doughnuts’ in the field, and when Heidi asked him why he was doing to which he replied by saying “I do this all the time when I was a teenager”, and “I did not put a ton of thought into everything he did when he was a kid”. I believe it is implied that, after his wife’s death, he knew that death is unexpected, and that it is time for him to live life to the fullest.

On the way to Enchanted Gardens, he stopped by his mother’s house, only find out that she is not in, but his brother, John was. John later goes for dinner with Heidi and Dawn, but Stanley did not tag along, he isolated himself, and was in a short moment of depression, this stage is called Depression. His brother soon knew what happened, and when he was trying to convey his opinion to his brother, Stanley lashed at him. This would be Anger in the stages of grief. This anger can be projected to anyone or anything. Though he pinned his brother to the door, John knew that this anger was not on him, but the result of Grace’s death, to which later they both embraced.

Before continuing their trip, Stanley made one last stop at the gas station to make a phone call to hear his wife’s voice again, he then depicted the Bargaining stage of grief, where he mentioned that when they came to Florida before she was shipped out, he wanted to apologize that he was angry, and the reason he was angry was because he was ashamed that she was going and not him, and that the girls would be better off if she did not go. This scene implied that he felt guilty of how he behaved when she was alive. Guilt is often bargaining’s companion, Stanley was trying to negotiate his way out of the hurt he was experiencing.

After hours of driving, they finally reached Enchanted Gardens, and even though they were enjoying themselves, the audience knew that, their joy will be short lived, as it was already made clear that the father would soon reveal what has happened. As they were heading back home, you can see that Stanley was hesitant on telling, but he took the courage, stopped by the beach, and finally said it. I think, Stanley needed to accept the fact that Grace is gone, and realize life should go on. I believe this last scene is the last stage of grief, which is Acceptance.

To conclude, I liked how the movie ended with all three of them waiting for “the time of the day”  at her tombstone so that they think about each other at the same moment, it shows that even though she’s not here in this world anymore, that does not mean they should stop loving her. I will end with this quote:

“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.” —James O’Barr.

Reference:

Kübler-Ross, E., & Kessler, D. (2014). On grief and grieving: Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss. Simon and Schuster.

Sybil (1976)

Haunting. Rage. Anger. Disturbing. Empathy. Horror. Overwhelming. Harrowing. Intense. Terrifying. These are some of the emotions I had during the movie, and after I watched the movie. In my opinion, this movie is much scarier than horror movies, because it involves the disruptions of one’s life because of another person. The damage that has caused her to be that way is much terrifying than demons and spirits. Well, that is just my two cents. Also, like the movie Awakening, Sybil, would be listed in my imaginary list of All-Time-Favourite Movies. Sybil is based on a true story about a woman who suffers from Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) that is deeply rooted from her childhood abuse.

There are few scenes that are so painful to watch that even a super egotistical person would shed tears. Basically, the retrospection of Sybil when she was 5 years old hits the spot. That innocent and adorable face, and the pureness in her voice caught everyone’s heart I bet. With this then came along her mother, who confused her with real meaning of love. She poisoned her mind. As how Dr.Cornelia Wilbur mentioned in the movie “Love is necessary, but when someone says come here, and then a hand comes a pinch you, that love is spoiled” Honestly, I felt a great deal amount of hatred towards the mother in the movie. Yes, I know it is just a movie, but that is what good movies supposed to make us feel right? We feel what the characters feel. The scenes of little Sybil tripping down the staircase, she getting kicked by her mother, being punished by putting her in the wheat bin, and worst of all the scene in the green kitchen.

Little Sybil 

I believe, everyone should be educated on how child abuse can forever scar their child’s life. It is said that most cases of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is caused by abuse, this movie portrayed really well on the horrific consequences of having really horrible childhood days. The period of someone’s childhood is the most important period in human development, it is when we learn new things, everything seems interesting to us, even a trail of ants on the wall would mesmerize us. We encode new languages, we take in new knowledge, interpret the environment that we live in and we observe and model people’s behaviour. Almost all important events in our lives happen during the childhood moments, and what happens when all these are taken away, or a child was abused during these vital developmental stages? It carries to their next development stages, it will affect them in so many ways, physically, emotionally and psychologically. In the movie, Sybil was severely abused by her mother. Her mother abused her physically, emotionally and mentally. I cannot imagine a 5 year old going through all that, Sybil really wanted to leave the house, she begged the doctor who took out her tonsils to take her away. She reluctantly leaves her grandma when she was being called by her mother. She was deprived of the most crucial aspect of life, a mother’s love. Thus, in her later days, she always asked Dr.Wilbur what is love? She has never experienced that for most of her life, because of her abusive mother, and what do you know, she healed because of the unconditional positive regard that she received from the doctor. There was a scene when Sybil wanted to explain a dream she had of Dr.Wilbur, after describing, the doctor mentioned that she loves Sybil, and the totality of her. Sybil did not hear those words for a very , very long time, and she finally felt loved for the first time.

When Sybil met Dr.Wibur for the first time

In my opinion, I am on the fence of whether DID is real or not real. I mean, as Dr.Goh mentioned, it is very rare to find cases of DID, which means it is real? But, then again, he mentioned that most of these cases are in the USA, where movies like this are being produced, which imply people are just making up the symptoms to seek attention? I do not know, but I would not want that disorder to happen even for my worst enemies. The portrayal of the DID symptoms is the movie was accurate enough to also educate laymen on this disorder, for example, in the beginning of the movie, Sybil was having flashbacks of her horrific incidents, and then all of  sudden she is standing in the water. Then, we saw both Sybil and Dr.Wilbur talking to each other about her tunnel visions, her blackouts, her loss track of time, amnesia, loss of self, and of course her various “self’s”. As always, I like to learn more from watching videos, and I found this short clip on her symptoms, here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kPIDt3yu1M 

As for the therapy, yes, Dr.Wilbur did violate some ethical aspects, such as counter transference, having multiple relationships, and broke confidentiality when she told Richard about her illness.  She was being a ‘mother’ and a therapist towards Sybil, but I think it was necessary for the treatments, because, only then, Sybil would trust her, and hey, if Dr.Wilbur did not inform Richard that she was going to kill herself, he wouldn’t had even know that ‘Marsha’ was going to the roof top for that reason.

Overall, I felt that this movie deserves to be re-screened in this decade. Sally Field who acted as Sybil, “Vanessa”, “Peggy”, “Victoria” and the rest of the personalities did a tremendous job in this movie.  This movie would move you and give you the chills at the same time, and odd combination, but you see for yourself, then you would know.

'Peggy' held traumatic fears of Sybil

'Vicky' who speaks french, is poised and confident

Whale Rider

Few months back or about a year ago, I saw a video on Facebook that bewildered me. It was a wedding that was held in New Zealand, and the bride and bridegroom were standing in front of a group of men, and all of a sudden a war cry started. Initially, I was appalled, and amazed at the same time. I questioned myself, why were they screaming in that manner while banging their chest, and stomping their feet? Then as I Googled, I became aware of the tradition of the Maori people. Here is the link to the video, though I initially saw it on my Facebook news feed, I wanted to learn more about their culture, so I found the video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUbx-AcDgXo

The movie Whale Rider took me deeper into understanding their culture, and I love learning new cultures. Their language sounds so unique, their tradition, the way they greet each other by touching each other’s nose, and they most importantly, they take pride in who they are. This movie also touched on how a little girl called Paikea strives to prove her grandfather, Koro that she is worthy to uphold the lines of chiefs, which implies that every woman deserves a chance to show what they are capable of.

One thing I observed throughout the movie was how patient Pai was with her grandfather. The grandfather sort of resented her, because whenever he looks at her, he thinks of the baby boy who could become the future chief. However, at the same time, he loved her. A concept that could relate how Koro was feeling would be cognitive dissonance. Koro sees Pai as unworthy, but still loves her unconditionally. Getting back, to how patient Pai was, knowing her age in the movie, she is matured enough to know that whatever Koro said to her was not really his intention to hurt her. A scene that could exemplify her maturity, was after Koro told Porourangi that she is no use to him, Pai went to the shore, and her father came along to comfort her, and she said “He didn’t mean it..about me”. Most kids in her age would rebel, or sulk or not talk to their parents after such thing happens, but she did not because you can see that Pai really, really loves Koro more than anyone in the world, and she has she never raised her voice, even though she really wanted his approval.

This movie also served a good message for woman empowerment. Paikea was raised in a patriarchal tribe, and only the first born male has the rights to become the chief. However, a tragedy occurred and they lost the first born, therefore putting Pai next in line, but she is a female, so Koro had to find another alternative. But, throughout the movie, we saw that Pai was the obvious one to become chief, she has everything that a future chief should have, she is no different than the boys who came for Koro’s class to learn their ancestors’ ways and traditions. We can relate this to the glass ceiling effect that women are facing today. Even though we are living in the 21^st century, there are still not many women holding higher titles in the corporate world. We know women are as good as any men out there, but still we struggle to climb up the corporate ladder. I am starting to become a feminists, and I think both genders or all genders should have equality in everything and anything.

In short, I loved the movie, it was an eye opener to the Maori culture, their language, their tradition and customs, and I am particularly still dazed by the Haka dance. It is a wonderful family movie which I think would inspire anyone, especially young girls out there, that with the patience and determination like Pai, you too can be a ‘chief’ one day.

Forget Paris

Paris-The City of Love, that is where it all began for Mickey (Billy Crystal) and Ellen (Debra Winger). The movie started off with their married friends waiting for them to arrive for dinner, and while waiting, each couple that arrives at the restaurant starts sharing their wonderful and adventurous love story. To be honest, before watching this movie I thought once someone has already found their significant other, everything would be okay, you would not feel lonely, you would have a happier life now that you have your other half to share their whole life with (this is what you would hear from anyone that is single, for example, moi).However, my perception was short lived after watching this movie, as the saying goes, “It takes two to tango”. Love is not all chocolates, roses, butterflies and sweet stuffs all the time. It is a journey, lifelong learning on how to adapt with your partner, to compromise, to tolerate, and to accept their shenanigans.

            Love is a about choice. You would not want to jump into a relationship just because you feel lonely. These temporary states of flux would push us to have a companionship, then after getting into one, we would soon regret it. In the movie, the spark between Mickey and Ellen ignited when they were in Paris, one thing lead to another and they were hopelessly in love with each other. Initially, it seemed like they needed each other’s presences. When Mickey left Paris, and they were doing long distance relationship, Mickey could not bear it. He was frustrated, he was miserable, and he starts displacing his anger towards the people around him. Then Ellen shows up at his doorstep and agreed to marry him. Further into the movie, we witness that, they both have different goals in their lives, she was not happy when he was and vice versa. Then in one of the scenes where Ellen actually mentioned to her friend that maybe she just started this relationship because she felt lonely, and was is it because of the rebound she had? However, as the movie progressed we knew that they did not “need” each other, but they “chose” to be with each other.

            Love is about understanding and empowering. Understanding is one of the most powerful weapons a couple could have in their battle to keep them alive. In the movie, the most prominent conflict Mickey and Ellen had was not being able to spend time together as a married couple, because of their jobs. Mickey left his job to become a car salesman just to make Ellen happy, but deep down, he was not happy at all, but on the other hand, Ellen was feeling wonderful with what she had, and vice versa. We can see how each other’s goal is not fulfilled. Good relationships supposed to make the individuals in it to flourish into something better, to give that extra nudge to propel you to greater heights, but this is not the case for both of them at the beginning. Ellen did not support Mickey’s goals and neither did Mickey on Ellen’s wish to get the job which required her to move to another different country. Nonetheless, as most of the romance movies, they both came to a common ground and compromised on each other’s dreams and ambitions.

            All in all, any type of relationships takes a great deal amount of work, I am not saying like it is a bad thing, I am saying that, if we want a relationship to go as how someone would want it to be, we have to work for it. Although the final scene of the movie was cliché, where Mickey realizes that Ellen is worth it, after a few seconds of pondering and gazing at the saxophone, he realized that Ellen is worth all the trouble and he wanted to go back to her to make things work. Relationship should be this way, where if something is broken, you do not throw it away, you fix it. 

Strictly Ballroom

The term Strictly Ballroom is an oxymoron; it is a figure of speech in which contradictory terms appear in a conjunction. I think the movie was entitled that way because, dancing supposed to be an individual expression, it is a way for us to express how we feel, allows us to be and feel free, and to find a sense of self. However, in a ballroom dancing competition, there are rules and regulations for us to comply; hence, we have the freedom to express, but, to a certain degree. Henceforth, with the presence of rules and regulations, influence ensues. Social influence to be exact. Social influence can be divided into three components, which are Conformity, Compliance and Obedience.

            Conformity within a group brings about members changing their attitudes and beliefs in order to match to those people within the group, and furthermore, those who conform tend to be either compliant or obedient. One very prominent example that we can observe conformity in this movies was when Scott’s father, Doug Hastings was the first person to clap, when Ms. Leachman unplugged the music cable. Shortly after that, Fran’s elders started to clap as well, followed by the two kids, and suddenly the hall was filled with thousands of hands clapping for Scott and Fran. Here, we can see the ripple effect, how powerful conformity is. It only takes one person to break or make a pattern, as how Asch’s experiment on conformity, it shows how easily it is to make an individual conform in a group situation.

            Compliant is a form of conformity, but differ a slight degree. Compliance occurs when one adapts his or her action, behaviours or beliefs to another’s wishes or rules. In my opinion, the scene where Mr. Barry Fife persuaded Scott Hastings into dancing with a better dancer than Fran is a good example to explain compliance from the movie. Mr. Fife, brought up Doug’s past on how he did not win the Pan Pacific during his time, and that Scott could make his father’s dream come true by winning it this time around. Cunning as he is, Mr. Fife, managed to influence Scott to dance with Liz Holt. Scott complied with Mr.Fife’s wish or requests to shake Fran off as his partner and replace her with Liz.  

            The final aspect of social influence is Obedience. Obedience is a type of conformity in which an individual follow orders without any question because they come from a legitimate authority or someone superior to us. Generally, this whole movie is about how Scott wanting to incorporate his own steps, which are non-federation steps, and how the people around him disapprove his believes about dancing.  Few characters in the movie displayed some sort of obedient conformity. For instances, Scott’s mother, Shirley Hastings, adhere to the rules so much, that she danced with Les Kendall instead of her husband during her times in the Pan Pacific’s, after being persuaded by Mr.Fife. She was so afraid to question the authority and thus, to not tarnish her reputation as a dancer, she obeyed the rules. Another character that displayed this type of social influence was by Liz Holt. After Scott danced his own “crowd-pleasing” steps during the first few minutes into the movie, Liz made an ultimatum to him saying that she will not dance with him, until he dance like he supposed to be. Again, Liz shows that she wants to obey the rules of the federation, which influenced her to select another partner who does obey the rules.

            In a nut shell, the aspects of social influence can be found in any social situations, be it dancing, answering questions in a group or even riots and protests. This movie has showcased creatively how social influence can affect dancing in a very clever way. 

Eat Drink Man Woman

I like how the movie starts off by showcasing the intricate skills of Master Chef Chu, you can see that he had years and years of experiences with how he works his knife, the amount of skills he possess, the precision he has, and the step-by-step methods he uses to prepare those dishes. Then the movie introduces to the three daughters, each of them with very different personalities. The eldest child, Jia-Jen the chemistry school teacher, the middle child, Jia-Chen, the beautiful and successful business woman, and the youngest child, Jia-Ning, who works at a fast food restaurant.

Throughout the whole movie, we can observe how these three daughters communicate with their father. As Asian parents, we rarely explicitly verbalize love, unlike the Westerns who most often utter the words “I love you”. Asians would express their love in more of the act of giving and subtle actions, for example, a mother saving the biggest piece of cake for her youngest son. This can be seen during the Sunday weekly dinner in the movie, where Master Chef Chu, would serve each of his daughter before he take his first bite. Other act of love that has been showcased in the movie is when, Master Chef Chu, makes lunch for Shan-Shan, and when he wakes his daughters up every morning before he goes for his morning jog. Besides that, we can notice how each of the daughters communicate differently with their father. Jia-Jen is more conservative, and soft-spoken, similar to Jia-Ning, who obeys what the father says, and is not as straightforward as Jia-Chen, who expresses what is on her mind, and is more of a rebellious type.

This movie also exhibits how the family struggles to stay as a unit, as the three grown daughters are finding their own path. The eldest Jia-Jen, battles with being single at her age, and constantly being asked by people around her about her status, but at the same time, she needs to take care of her father, as she took on the “mother-figure” after they lost their mother. Jia-Chen, the gutsy one, strives to be free from the shackles of her family, as she wants to be independent and live separately, while, for Jia-Ning, things was going swell for her, she seems happy with what she was doing. However, despite all this, all of them have a weekly ritual, which is the Sunday dinner, where Master Chef Chu whips up delicious arrays of Chinese dishes, and everyone attends it as if they are obliged to do so, but eventually, at every Sunday dinner, important announcements were made from each of the family members.

Dr.Goh, told us to think about the traffic intersection and what does it signifies. In my opinion, I feel, the traffic intersection signifies the leaving of a family member, or when a family member had already found their own path to their personal lives. For example, after the announcement of Master Chef Chu being together with Jin-Rong, if I’m not mistaken, there was a traffic intersection few minutes later.

All in all, I enjoyed the movie very much. It was filled with humour, the search for romance, poignant family moments, the unexpected plot twists, and the displays of mouth watering dishes throughout the movie. 

Gandhi

Gandhi or as the citizens of Indian called him as Gandhiji or Bapu (Father of the nation) is a remarkable human being. As how the movie started with his assassination, and when the whole world was mourning for a great loss, the commentator caught my attention, and I bet everyone who was watching or has watched the movie. He explains how Gandhi was not a ruler of mass land, has not invented anything and without any wealth on him, but you can see how he made a difference and brought the whole nation together. He fought against the rights of the woman in India and the untouchables, he went against discrimination, and brought independence to India.

Few scenes that I found interesting were the scenes when Gandhi asked a shilling from a general and when he fasted as a way to stop the riots or protest that happened. The first scene actually caught us off guard, Gandhi asking the British a shilling for a ride back home, even one of them gave a shocking expression. This first move in my opinion was a subtle way of saying there will be change, and he was on a roll to make that change.

The second scene was when he fasted as a way to tell the people to end the riots and protests which Gandhi strongly opposes, because he wanted to gain India’s Independence with non-violence. Once the people knew he went into fasting, they stopped the riots and the protest. I found this interesting, how can one human, can affect millions of people? They respected Gandhi, they worshiped him, and I believe most importantly, they trusted him. They trusted him that, he knows what he is and was  doing, thus, the citizens follow whatever he wanted. This dialogue was particularly captivating for me “If I fast, I will die, but if you (Gandhi) fast, people go all sorts of trouble to keep you alive”.

After watching the movie, I could gather some of his characteristics and strategies that made him a great leader, which gained and influenced millions of followers. Initially, he was not a good talker, he did not know the tricks to be a good speaker, but once he got the hang of it, he projected his voice clearly, he used hand gestures, he had a rage in him that could be heard, but he never projected in a violent manner. He was adamant, humble and a great risk taker. He lived like the Indians live. He also knew what needs to be said and what the people wanted to hear, which is a type of good persuasion. For example, my personal analysis was when, during his speeches, he would bring up, the awful laws of British, and when he got the audience aroused, he then mentions the rights of the people of India should deserve. However, most definitely, he was determined, he did not give up on the people. No matter how many times he was in and out of prison, he always continued what he had started. I think when the people of India saw that, they knew that he would lead them to independence, which influenced everyone to be a part of the fight.

In a nutshell, I wished Gandhi was still around to witness the riots, protest and terrorism that are happening in this world, we need good souls like him, it is silly to think such way, but think about it, the world would be so much better if we follow his footsteps of non-violence, the footsteps of a small brown man in a shawl and loincloth- Gandhiji.

Running On Empty

Few minutes into the movie, I felt the movie was a bit dull, it did not catch my attention, however, when the story progressed, it was not so bad after all. Running on Empty is a good story for families, because it shows perseverance, respect towards the elders, disciplinary, individual responsibility as members of the family, and the trials and tribulations of a teenage life while being a fugitive.

There were a few scenes from the movie that I found interesting. Firstly, on how effortlessly the family communicates. This can be seen as how Arthur Pope speaks openly with their children, and even though he is a strict father, he still maintains healthy communication within the family unit. I believe, communication is essential in every family, and in this movie, I think communication was the glue that was keeping everything together, because just imagine, if Danny, the eldest son, was a rebel? Imagine if Arthur did not get involved in his son’s life? And not giving him life lessons that could be beneficial in the future? But, that is not the case in this movie, for example, as a scene goes by when Danny points out how his dad had thought him how to question authority, few scenes where they would have conversations in the kitchen during meal preparations, and when Arthur asked openly if Danny is sleeping with his girlfriend Lorna. Secondly, the scene when Annie Pope meets her father after 14 years. We can see the build up of emotions from both parties. Apart from the emotions, we can see a mother’s cry for help and her sacrifice, as she wanting to save a teenager’s life, so that he can have a better one, even if it takes not seeing him for a long time.

A few aspects caught my attention, namely, the type of parenting styles the family possesses, the culture of American families and how it differs with Asians, and most importantly, the function of the family as a unit. Throughout the movie, I believe both parents uphold an authoritative parenting style. Even though they have rules to comply, the parents had a give and take policy, is responsive, and more forgiving unlike the authoritarian parenting style. Next would be how the culture of American families differ from Asians, few scenes that depicted this would be again, as mentioned earlier, on how Arthur asked Danny if he is sleeping with Lorna. This is very, very rare in the Asian culture, maybe because it is terribly awkward to ask such questions, but I wonder why. Finally, the function of the family as a unit. The Pope’s are fugitives, and they were trying their best to make ends meet, for example, the father getting clothes from the thrift shops, the mother eventually found a job to contribute to the family, and the sons being the most obedient children I have ever seen. They work together to stay as a unit, they respect each other, have good communications, and know that families should stay together to be strong. However, at the end of the movie, the parents decided that holding back their son’s future was selfish, and thus, they let him go on his own, but the assurance of their love, will keep the family together.

To sum up, I believe this movie has many moral values, and can teach us how to be respectful towards our parents, and also, how parents should also treat their children in an egalitarian manner, because compromising is also another key to all relationships. 

Awakenings

After watching the movie Awakenings, it was instantly placed in my imaginary list of all time favourite movies of mine, as I love movies that are based on true events. As I saw the cast of the movie in the beginning I knew this would be a good movie, as Robert De Niro(Leonard) and Robin Williams (Dr.Sayer) are both astounding actors. In my opinion the movie has its own simplicity, but impacted all of us who were watching.

This movie allowed us, and me to take a step back and to be cognizant of the little things, the simplest of things, things that matter to us. As Leonard was a boy, everything was fine, then those little things were taken away from him, and within a blink of an eye, he was a mere vegetable physically. This transition of the movie made me reflect on my current life. I have to admit I do take the little things for granted at times, however, after this movie, I would change the way I see things and look at it in a different perspective.

Some of the scenes that I found intriguing and captivating is when Dr. Sayer is waiting for the consent of Leonard's mother, and as she mentioned to Dr.Sayer if I can recall correctly “ what more can he look forward to the world”, and to what Dr.Sayer replied “ He can look forward to you”. This scene implied to me personally that, no matter how hard life hits you, there is always someone who is willing to support you no matter what life throws at you, and here a mother’s love, is the ultimate support Leonard had been getting and to continue receive in the movie. 

Another scene that was heart-wrenching and melancholy for me was, when Leonard had developed tics and was talking to Paula. She mentioned how she went out with friends and danced, and Leonard said he cannot do any of that. This scene again, reminds us that, those things such as dancing, eating and talking which we take so lightly, but maybe a huge deal for someone else. We are so engrossed in chasing our personal goals, and fail to appreciate what is around us, and that these little things can make us feel alive, it is what we used to forget. We tend to forget how to live. 

All in all, I loved the movie. The subtle messages that the movie was trying to portray to the 

audience was spot on. The movie is thought-provoking, shows us the dedication and the risk taking of a doctor and the breaking through in the medical field. It displays the essence of what life should be about-embracing life as it is, to live in the moment, as it can be snatched away from us anytime, and thus we all should or try to seize the day or the popular Latin word for it- Carpe Diem.